Beyond the self-esteem issue, we should never blame the victims for being and staying in these relationships, we should blame the abuser. I don't care how many issues the victims have (which are the result of a tragic childhood most of the time), that doesn't give ANYBODY the right to beat them up. The abusers have deeper issues and are responsible for their actions. Look how people trashed Rihanna for being beaten up, people trash male victims of domestic violence too. That should never happen.