stupid has allways been stupid . people get all into themselves an feel like they can do what they want . Im a black man married to a black women an I never hit my wife an we have been together for 15 years but I believe some people put to much value on themselves an are to arrogant an feel like they can do whatever they want . My wife tried to get that way at one point an she was almost alone . I would not tollerate stupidity an dont believe no man or woman should but respect is one of the most important things in a relationship an if there is none there can be no relationship . Is this what happened to K C from JODECI ? ummmm one can only wonder . Why do I here so much about black women not finding a good man ? are people to blind to see the value of playing the right role in a relationship ? Paranoia in a relationship can be a devestating factor that can destroy relationships . I smile at other women when I talk with or without my wife standing there . Does that meen that I want to share intamacy with everyone of them ? No ! Stop saying you want a man if you cant respect the ones you have .