I think a lot of people misunderstands Tamar sometimes because of her tone of speakling and her aggressive personality and mannerisms (hope thats the rite word) but if you listen to her points they make sense. In the case when Traci said if your marriage makes it through the years I dont think Traci meant any harm at all. I think she was just speaking normal like how any adult would speak. Like just saying everyone is not lucky to make it through the tough times of marriage. That is why she said if. Tamar just seemed to be sensitive and it just hit her at a spot which I think has to do with her music career. I hope Tamar doesnt let this music career spoil her marriage because she doesnt even have to sign to her husband. We all know she has talent and beauty. If you listen to Tamar's "If You Dont Want To Love Me" you will see that the girl can BLOW!!!! Look at Beyonce and Jayz , Beyonce was not signed to Jayz's record label when they got married. She still isnt but she just recently signed under his management which I think is diffferent. My point is I like Tamar's personality and I think that she shouldnt let her music career hurt her marriage because she has ALL THE CONNECTIONS from what I see. Her sister is Toni Braxton plus she can BLOW and is Pretty. If her husband is not moving quick enough for her she should just pursue record labels as back up and not bring business into their HOME/ PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP. Because the Industry can mess up a Good Thing if she DOES THAT!!