I'm reading the comments and I understand that some people may have their own perception of things, it's not disrespectful if it's genuine, but not inappropriate. I've seen some remarks on Twitter and a few other sites that are cruel, filled with hate and evil spirited. I can respect those that are speaking their own truth with some tact and hopefully with some empathy. BTW, I speak to Grammy Dammy all the time, he certainly wouldn't make Whitney's death a joke. He's only being honest in his opinion, he means no harm.

What I will urge everyone to do is consider a few things before judging Whitney... 1 Whitney may have been on the road to recovery. We can't add so much weight and validity to the spin on stories the media have made up about Whitney's death. If you just pay attention, you will find that all the speculation isn't based on anything factual yet. The stories are conflicting. Some sources have Whitney non functional, incoherent and appearing to be somewhat disheveled the night she was attending Kelly Price's Grammy nomination party. Others sources have allowed witnesses to set the record straight , stating that Whitney wasn't drunk. She was simply enjoying a night out. She had champange , but it wasn't over done. Many people found her to still be alert (from Kenny Lattimore to Kelly Price).

Their dispelling rumors of blood dripping from Whitney's leg - which turned out to be wine) and her messed up hair due to dancing with her daughter all night gave more insight. You have to be careful with the media. Sometimes their simply trying to sway you in a certain direction. Facts are facts, but if someone is moving with caution in their everyday lives and making changes that go unnoticed it's easy to focus on what can appear to be damaging because of what we know of in their past. It's happens to everyone, we've all had someone misunderstand out intentions.

2 I'm simply making a point here to say that we aren't fully aware of what place Whitney was in (mentally), in her final days. We also have to honor the fact that Whitney did put up a fight to shake off addiction. It was a long difficult journey , but from what I understand she was still in the ring. If you judge, judge people on their character when their trying to show you what their made of.

3 What I must add to this is that Lauryn is right, MJ & Whitney were not celebrated for their music contributions to the world while they were on this Earth. Both of them were 2 artist that were 2 of the biggest you'll ever find. I have always thought it was remarkable that they've sold the most albums ever in 1 era - MJ 'Thriller' biggest (for the men) and Whitney's 'Bodyguard' (biggest for the women) and they were being torn to pieces everyday by the media and our own. One minute people adore you, the next they want to see you fail. It turned into a circus and what was forgotten was how they've gave the world something so special. Would Elvis and Barbra Striesand been under the same scrutiny? I doubt it. You have to analyze these things, because greats from Josephine Baker to Diana Ross have been mistreated. Some others never receive this harshness. There is one person in particular (maybe 2) that the media spend hours building up to be a GOD. Don't ignore how lop-sided things are.

It's simply not easy for some superstars and if your a fan of Janet, Beyonce, or any huge stars of their caliber (because their the only targets), then your well aware of how the media is waiting to turn something they do thats ambiguous into something negative, when alot of times that is not always the case. Whitney may have given them some ammunition, but it doesn't mean that she was incapable of turning things around. It doesn't mean that she deserving the constant beating inflicted on her. Do we have to - so willingly kick people when their down? We all think we know Whitney's stuggles and life so well. It's easy to not use the proper discernment. A picture can be painted of someone and that can alter your perception. We all fall down, but it doesn't mean someone's not trying to get up (like the song). Just remember that the same judgement you place on someone can return back to hinder you one day. So just be careful with that. You aren't always aware of every factor or encouraged to spread love to uplift someone. Lauryn's words are golden.

Please excuse me for this long ass essay.