In reply to Jay Jay.

Words of Wisdom...
One is that we are all responsible for our actions, our behavior, and our words, and we must take responsibility for everything we say and do. When you get your head wrapped around that, you can no longer think of life as a series of random events - you participate in life in a way you didn't previously. I am the architect of my destiny. I am in charge. I bring that to me, or I push that away. You can no longer blame other people for things that happened to you. The other is that there is order in the universe, even though it looks like chaos. We separate the world into categories: this is good and this is bad. But life is set up to trick us. It's a series of illusions we invest in. And ultimately those investments don't serve our understanding, because physicality is always going to let you down, because physicality doesn't last.
We will all grow old and gray and only have our past to remember and to grow from. It is one thing to accept what hs happen to you and it is a really huge move when we grow to learn how to accept what has happen to us and let it go and move on with our lives.
Many who has gone through things like this never ever pull through it. Let go and let God.