The reason why I believe this is an issue for most is because gay men are not females, they are MEN. When you hear some black guy call you "my n*gga", you don't get upset or riled up because he's a one as well. There's no condescending factor there, you don't have to feel less or he's trying to insult you because he knows your struggle and pain due to you both sharing the BlaCK experience.

With gays calling females bitches, it is insulting because these people still benefit from a privilege of being MALE. Where they could live life not having to deal with certain struggles....

I agree with banks, with calling a gay man a faggot because when they get upset then they want to use slur against women, gays do believe that they are above anything and could get away with anything.

Racism in the gay community is crazy huge, whither it be stereotypical porn scenes, images of white males being the most desired and considered "hot" while other minorities are shown as "fantasies" or objectified for their stereotypical myths (black men are big and menacing, Asians are small and submissive, etc). The only reason gays have come so far is because there are white gays, if there weren't then it would be years before gays get any sense of justice. Hell people rather accept Ellen because she's a happy non aggressive lesbian.