I really respect Tamar for stating her opinion,I can understand better now why she expects 100% loyalty from her friends,and I agree with her reasoning. If you grew up viewing things a certain way,and have accepted that view much of your life,its not the easiest thing to change that overnight. I think everybody is entitled to their opinion. Instead of attacking her,just re-affirm your faith in the validity of your sexual identity. You can't allow people's opinions affect your inner peace,except you don't have it in the first place.