Well a step mom is a form of a mother and a title that just is what it is. The fact that she’s saying “I’m the mother and Alicia cannot be anything in relation to that” just goes to show her mind is not in the right space. A step mother is an extension of the father and, for a younger kid a parental figure. I have a step parent, and though not my real parent they are definitely parental To me and respected like the lover of my actual parent. So she may wanna reevaluate her thought process because she’s being extremely ignorant. That is your child’s step mom, by law and by nature- deal with it honey. Step MOTHER