Her self-induced demise woulda been her son's SECOND biggest trauma, the 1st being his mother saying on national TV how he was an unwanted child, was conceived on liquor, and was tough to bond with in the delivery room. Tamar's fun but, like her parents, does everything just to preach (about) it to others. P.S. slept on her sister's couch? Lies. Toni wanted nobody near her lupus; Tamar stayed with the ex who saved her.