Just get your life together first....then bring someone else in....take care of your children....don't date and your not over your ex.....make sure your not trying to get Kim back because of the kids that's never a good idea....don't try to Kim back because she is dating and seems to be happy...if you love her let her be happy with whomever if it's meant to be it will be...but God wants you healthy so you can take care of your children first...I am speaking as a mother of grown children and grandchildren....if you never get back with Kim that's OK. Maybe God has someone he is preparing especially for you.....so take care of yourself.....what would your mother think of everything your doing first she would want you healthy and happy for yourself and your children...God Bless you....stop and regroup the way God wants you too