Nate Parker has scolded his own treatment of women in an interview with ‘Ebony‘ magazine.
Currently under scrutiny following the unearthing of details surrounding rape allegations made against him in 1999, the actor has stepped forward to reveal that he stands far removed from the man he was when he was found not guilty.
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He and his creative partner, Jean Celestin, were accused of sexually assaulting a woman as she lay passed out during their time as students at Penn State University.
She committed suicide years later.
Now, Nate bares all on how he feels about the case before the opening of his movie ‘Birth of a Nation.’
When I was first met with the news that this part of my past had come up, my knee-jerk reaction was selfish. I wasn’t thinking about even the potential hurt of others; I was thinking about myself.
On male privilege:
I never thought about it. I’m walking around daring someone to say something or do something that I define is racist or holding us back, but never really thinking about male culture and the destructive effect it’s having on our community.
The way I treated women, objectified women.My manhood was defined by how many women I could be with. I was a dog. I was wrong. I hurt a lot of women. And that was normal for me, in respect to how I treated them emotionally. I was introduced to sex in a certain way.
That type of male culture, that type of hypermasculinity where your manhood is determined by how many women you get to say ‘Yes’ is destructive.
I never thought about consent as a definition, especially as I do now.
Put it this way: when you’re 19, a threesome is normal. It’s funWhen you’re 19, getting a girl to say yes, or being a dog, or being a player, cheating. Consent is all about — for me, back then — if you can get a girl to say ‘yes,’ you win.”
Back then, it felt like: at 19, if a woman said ‘no,’ no meant no.If she didn’t say anything and she was open, and she was down, it was like how far can I go? … It was simply if a woman said no or pushed you away that was non-consent.
I’m learning about definitions that I should have known when I started having sex.Listen to me when I say I’m understanding that I’m dealing with a problem, like an addiction.I’m a work in progress. I’m trying to be better. I feel remorse for all the women that are survivors that felt I was being insensitive because I was. And I want to have a better understanding of how I can be more of an ally, if they’ll accept me. There will be people who won’t accept me, and that’s okay. All I can do is say that I stand for justice and really learn more about this issue so I can be a better ally of this issue.