Jeannie Mai got all sorts of candid on the latest episode of ‘The Real.’
On a topic about submissiveness in 2020, the media maven told her co-hosts that she intends to be “submissive” in her upcoming marriage to rapper Jeezy.
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In a frank discussion with Loni Love, Adrienne Bailon, and Garcelle Beauvais, the 41-year-old relayed that her fierce independence in her prior marriage and relationships had been an issue. And is something she wants to change this go round.
“So, I’m gonna say right here, that I, Jeannie Mai, going in to my marriage — I want to submit to my man. Let me explain. When I hear this definition … submitting has a negative connotation. It means that you are less important, you are lower than that person that you’re submitting to. It usually can be like, you know, referenced as somebody who works lower than you and that’s not what I’m referring to here.”
“I’m a very dominant woman. I own my business, I lead my teams, I played my own manager, my own publicist, my own lawyer when I didn’t have money to have those people. So, I make the decisions in my life. When I come home, I like the idea that my man leads us. That doesn’t mean that in this case Jay makes all the decisions for us. That doesn’t mean that when he says, ‘How are we spending our money?’ or ‘Where are we moving?’ that I just say, ‘Yes sir,’ or ‘Yes, your honor.’ Like, it’s not that. It’s a, ‘You know what? I think that we would do best here, I want to do this,’ and he takes the decision, he formulates it with our overall vision, and he leads us and I like to submit to that.”
Mai, who is currently competing on the new season ‘Dancing With The Stars,’ added:
“I don’t want to lead in our household and in our marriage. I want him to lead, and I have all the essence of what I bring as a wife to make that decision, but that I love that my husband will be the man that leads. I like that structure in a marriage and I look forward to that because girls — it’s tiring being the boss of me. It’s tiring leading all the time in my life.”
Illustrating with her own upbringing, she continued:
“I grew up in a household – my mom … she has a very strong force, and she took over a lot of decisions in the household, to the point that my dad, unless it was always going to be a fight, he was like, ‘You know what? Go ahead. Whatever you want to decide. Go ahead, and I’m just gonna do me.’ And that caused a wedge. And I can have that tendency. I’m just saying for me, I can have a tendency to follow like my mom, ‘cause it’s what I grew up in and I saw it. And I saw in my living space, I would all of a sudden just wake up and go and make decisions without asking and checking in, so I am the fault that can cause an inequality because I am pulling in my habits from my old household to how I run my business today. And that is not OK, and I’m careful and aware of that today. So, I’m just telling that to anybody else who didn’t tell me that when I could have learned that before.”
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