Ciara Asks The World…’What Is Social Media Coming To?’



Respected and admired for calm manner and even cooler music, the last decade has seen Ciara navigate her way through the industry without facing the drama and scandal that keeps so many of her rivals glued to headlines.

Indeed, save for a number of well publicised bumps in her career’s road, the star’s personal image stands just as clean today as it was during her debut.

So, perhaps with her efforts to keep it ‘all about the music’ in mind, the mild mannered maestra penned an open letter to the world yesterday, questioning the impact social media has on those the world deems easy targets, urging fans to steer clear of the negativity that currently overshadows the art form she loves so much.

Wise words from the winning woman below…

“I used to sometimes like visiting some of the blog sites to see what new things are happening in the world! Things like cool photos, current events, etc. But nowadays it seems like there’s a competition with sites on “Who Can Tear Someone Down the Most.” The stories are going from cool and creative to pure drama. Even the comment sections are beginning to get out of control and people are using the platforms to exercise a false sense of power.

People sure do have a lot of courage when they are anonymous. It’s like a “Who Can Say the Nastiest Comment Game.” I click onto some of the comments from something as fun as an Instagram post that you’re sharing with your fans, and a person finds a way to turn a positive post into a negative. I think to myself, “I could pick this person apart so bad but what for? Why act ugly like them?” It honestly takes the fun out of it when people seem so miserable.

Or at least that’s how I view someone wasting their energy to tear someone down, just plain miserable. They could be using that to do something much more productive. If only they could channel their energy towards positivity, it could make a difference in their own life as well as influence others. It’s kind of scary for the kids coming up, because even if a parent doesn’t allow their kids to have blog site access at home, they may still have access at school or other places. It’s now almost impossible to protect your kids from the vile things people say on blog sites today, and it’s even worse when kids hear hurtful things about themselves, their parents or other family members. In some cases kids have even resorted to suicide due to “cyber-bullying.”

My questions to people creating slander about people are: 
What stops you from thinking twice about trying to defame someone? What are you trying to gain?

Words are powerful. You could say the wrong thing about someone, famous or not, on the wrong day and that could cost them their life because they’re at a weak point. Believe it it or not, you could also be encouraging them to give up on their life or whatever the situation is, when they shouldn’t. Or what about a story that causes unnecessary drama stemming from completely false information? It’s just flat out wrong and sad. I say to myself, I thank God for making me strong, because I’ve always been able to use the negativity as motivation, and it makes me stronger.

But I don’t just think about myself in this, I think about others that I see getting thrashed and think it’s just so wrong. It’s very sad that people just want to tear people down so bad just to see them unhappy. It’s unbelievable how far people are willing to go to get people to come to their site. 
I say this to say….

Dear Blogger, It’s never worth it in the end when you sell your soul for a quick dollar, by creating bad stories about people. At some point, it will all reverse on you and you’ll end up regretting all the trash you wrote or said about people.
The universal friend “Karma” has demonstrated this over and over again. I strongly encourage you to project more positivity into
the universe. If Social Media is a world that’s growing more massive by the day, why not use it to shed light?? Otherwise, you are merely contaminating our universe.
What about your family and kids?? Do you think about them?? You’re definitely creating a harmful and volatile environment where they must learn to live. It’s almost like you are cursing future generations with your bad energy.
Not to mention…Your “Personal Karma”??… Forget about it!
You better start doing some serious praying and rebuking, cause only The Lord knows!…:)

I sure do miss the good ol days when the focus was about the pure creativity of being an artist. Back then there was still some mystery. Social Media Is Beginning To Take Away The Specialness of What That Was, and Is.

Now, Off Blogs. Peaceful Mind. Living In My Happiness. Creativity Only. 

Love, C.”


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  1. S****** Blonde January 7, 2014

    Respected and admired for calm manner and even cooler music

    Ok, i agree that she is a good person, well, she seems but nothing about her music is worthy of the word cool.

  2. BEYONCÉ January 7, 2014

    Hey Ciara you’re probably iconic cici , Molly or Super Cisus! You ain’t slick girl.

  3. MarinasDiamonds January 7, 2014

    You can tell TGJ love her just by the way they write about her. It’s so nice that a website as big as this spreads love imo.

  4. hur January 7, 2014

    She Right tho. I’ve always loved her. She has done nothibg wrong since her debut.

  5. BanjeeRiri January 7, 2014

    Yes Ciara! My fave may not like her but I stan for any woman with a high school diploma and who can string a proper sentence together. Side eyes NoHighSchool DiplomaHavingYonce.

  6. BrunoMartian January 7, 2014

    Beautiful, smart and intelligent. She’s all a man needs. Marry me Cici.

  7. BEYONCÉ January 7, 2014

    Rihanna dropped out at 15 b**** so you sound stupid.

  8. BarbzRUs January 7, 2014

    TGJ spilled that truth tea when they said she’s never had a major scandal 2bh.

  9. RiriRoyale January 7, 2014

    See how well she speaks Beyonce?

  10. BeachHouseBritney January 7, 2014

    Her eloquence though.

  11. TurntUp4Cici January 7, 2014

    HumanitarianAra preaching the good word.

  12. CiGold January 7, 2014

    I love and admire Ciara’s fighting spirit. Get em girl!

  13. Slayfasa (King of the Jungle) January 7, 2014

    Not me stanning for this woman behind my work desk right now! Flaunt that education mama! Show these other b****** it’s good to know how to read and write.

  14. mike January 7, 2014

    But this goes for thatgrapejuice as well!

    Ya’ll are so nasty and shady sometimes just to get hits!

  15. QueenCeline January 7, 2014

    @Mike Not really 2bh, they’re positive 99% of time except when it comes to Rihanna nowadays.

  16. Mya January 7, 2014

    Ciara tell that Iconic Cici, Super Cisus and some of your crazy fans

  17. Mya January 7, 2014

    But I agree with her… She spoke the truth

  18. QueenoftheNavy January 7, 2014

    Aside from when they shade the Queen and Lil Bankruptcy this website is positive. I hate to say it but I have to be honest.

  19. PeacefulCici January 7, 2014

    Queen Ciara loves Grape Juice and everybody knows that, she’s talking about all the other bloggers who make fun of her for no reason.

  20. FentySoSnatched January 7, 2014

    Respect her for this but I will never respect Fraudyonce.

  21. CiaraTheFemaleMJ January 7, 2014

    Where are the Beyonce fans? Hiding behind her non existent diploma?

  22. BEYONCÉ January 7, 2014

    No trick we’re hiding behind Ciara’s non existent CAREER. B**** you tried it!

  23. Lana Del Slay January 7, 2014

    You can tell when someone has gone to school.

  24. AutoFill Truthteller, D January 7, 2014

    Iher image is as clean as when she started ????
    Let s not act as if she s not a known industry h** looking for a rapper sugar daddy to cover her expenses since she has become a flop… Just like her bff kim k. 50cent anybody???
    As she given that Ferrari back? Now she s tryna lock down future????

  25. An0thrDream January 7, 2014

    This is why I love ciara, she is such a beautiful person on the inside, she doesn’t just make great music and perform like no other , she is about making a positive difference

    Much respect ciara

    And thatgrapejuice – thank you for setting a higher standard and being above the negativity! Though I rarely comment due to the insensitive anonymous comments, I truly enjoy visiting and reading your posts about the urban community 🙂

  26. Lovebird January 7, 2014

    No one expects celebrities to read their own press, and they shouldn’t.

    Ciara has got like over a million followers on social media, why harp on what negative people are saying when there are over a million people saying something positive? I don’t get it.

  27. Chillin January 7, 2014

    Well said Ciara!! Much love and respect…I never had animosity towards Ciara until i started visting this site.. I really had to step back..i found myself being drowned in this social media stan war nonsense. I pray that 2014 is a better and more positive year all around..the world needs it

  28. Lovebird January 7, 2014

    The irony of this story appearing on this site though, I can’t.

  29. Emmi3 January 7, 2014

    Why she Fraudyonce ?? You sound so stupid you know ? If she had copied or sampled well what ever…check your faces just cause you dont know the songs doenst mean they dont do it ..and its a producer thing ! producers come up with beats or what ever…so you cant blame Beyonce ! Why hate on her explain fentysosnatched ?? why explain ! you have no legit reasons you are what ciara is talking about un ugly ass hater…wisw the brain would develop a anti hate self killing system..the world would be so much better we wouldnt need heaven

  30. Arie January 7, 2014

    I might have to buy her album after this.

  31. FreeBreezy January 7, 2014

    Ciara basically ripped TGJ to shreds! Well said cici

  32. RICHIE_RICH January 7, 2014

    Way to go CiCi. She is such positive person, I love that about her. What does Beyonce have to do with this post?

  33. RICHIE_RICH January 7, 2014

    @lovebird I understand why you don’t get it, cause you’re not a positive person.

  34. Lovebird January 7, 2014

    I get that blogs like this one will always be negative because that’s what brings those “hits”.

    This blog has torn apart and harassed Rihanna, Britney Spears, Lil’ Kim, etc.

    Bad news spreads faster than good news, that is the nature of the media and that is why blogs like this one will NEVER be positive.

    Which is why celebrities shouldn’t read their own press. Just keeping it 100% and realistic.

  35. LOL January 7, 2014


  36. RICHIE_RICH January 7, 2014

    “Bad news spreads faster than good news, that is the nature of the media and that is why blogs like this one will NEVER be positive.

    Which is why celebrities shouldn’t read their own press. Just keeping it 100% and realistic.”

    I agree 100% with this.

  37. RICHIE_RICH January 7, 2014

    Yeah, whatever happen to the overdose video?

  38. the truth honey January 7, 2014


  39. The Boy Toy January 7, 2014

    Lmao this is one of the most negative blogs out there. It’s known for being shady and starting stan wars. I’ll defend my fave but the stan wars are old and boring. I still love y’all lol because I can get a good laugh, but if I want to have serious discussions, I go elsewhere 😀

  40. ehh… January 7, 2014

    why i read that essay? why she wrote it? it’s about herself… right?

    what blogs she reading? i can read them too. just googled her. rolling out tore her relevance apart. some social netters and commenters do that too. here too. irony. but… she can and might ignore it. can’t really on her stuff tho. but she fine on that – what i see. she gotta chill that. be better.

    foot note here: i can still count the people that tweet about and retweet that essay here. i’ll check that later again.

    the net is vast. but not really. 😉

  41. ehh… January 7, 2014

    just being real.

  42. the truth honey January 7, 2014

    @boyslut girl shut up…

  43. RoyalKev January 7, 2014

    Aww, Cici. I can tell she’s doing her best to deal in a world filled with hate, drama and fabricated lies. Some people thrive on that negativity. That’s just how it works now unfortunately. You really don’t have to be famous to encounter this. I just think in order to protect yourself, you have to mentally be removed from it. Some days you will act out of character (you’re human), people will test you! Still what other people think about you shouldn’t matter so much!

    The best way to live is drama free, surround yourself with positive people and have a strong sense of self. When you don’t need EVERYONE’S damn opinion (especially those that can barely stand to see you happy), you are in a healthy place. I think Janet & Bey have an inner strength that really helps them through all the crazy times. People often shade them, but it’s like they know how to dismiss it (these people might as well be talking to walls). I hope Cici develops this thick skin (if she hasn’t already). Let people talk Ci, you slay enough every time you hit the stage to shut it all down!

  44. Christian Bale’s Wart January 7, 2014

    “Even the comment sections are beginning to get out of control and people are using the platforms to exercise a false sense of power.”

    This is true except – “BEGINNING” to get out of control? No, ma’am; it’s been out of control for quite some time now, and the toxicity has spread to sites that used to be legitimate places to read and comment. I remember leaving one site forever because of this, only to find a while later that one former favorite site became just like it, and the site Admins (or whatever they call themselves) do nothing about it because all they care about is the traffic the site gets and the clicks their topics get. They don’t present their topics in a messy way, yet they enable the messiness in the comments by doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to curb it.

  45. Bey Fan January 7, 2014

    How do you have time to even read the comments underneath a pic or a post??

    I mean I respect what she’s saying. But there will ALWAYS be ppl who will find something negative. Like saying Beyonce has no diploma when that has absolutely nothing to do with this post and and points to the kinda negativity that she was talkin bout.

    I would expect new celebs to check on blog sites … but once you’ve been in the game for a minute, reading blog sites can be depressing.

    Imagine if Beyonce and Rihanna read the s*** thats said about them on a daily…smh

  46. jen January 7, 2014

    She read SAM and this site!

  47. smh January 7, 2014

    First of all this site and M** are the only bloggers that constant blog about her or even care about her. lol So who is she referring to? Secondly, maybe she should be out making better music, giving her fans the video they are patiently waiting for and stop reading these blogs if she feels they are not true. The essay she wrote just added fuel to the fire for neg. comments. The hate comments will NEVER stop it’s just wishful thinking.

  48. iconic cici January 7, 2014

    She was talking to people like Rosie Slay_Hive and Digger Bey.

  49. Britney Stan January 7, 2014

    I dont like how she spends more time reading blogs then worrying about her career where is the overdose video?

  50. ROSEGOLD January 7, 2014

    Ciara is always on the blogs. She was caught on SR a few years back lol. Cici needs to tell her own fans to stop being nasty, bitter trolls because they’re guilty also. That was a sweet letter, but nothing is gonna change. The internet gives people courage that they’d NEVER have in person. People thrive off of negativity and drama. It’s always been that way and it’ll always be that way, unfortunately. All you can really do is try to rise above it….

  51. whocares January 7, 2014

    the irony here is… that’s all TGJ does. LOL and now you’re posting this. Hypocritical much?!

  52. BeyWhoUWanna January 7, 2014

    This is the only site that cares about her and is actually nice to her so I doubt she’s talking about them.

  53. Whitney’sLove January 7, 2014

    I read a lot of blogs and believe me when I say this one isn’t messy at all. Messy is when they’re coming to tell you about who slept with who and who slapped who in what party. I’ve been on here for seven years and the most I’ve seem them do is throw sly shade but that is shade, not mess.

  54. Molly January 7, 2014

    TGJ has to be delusional if they think she isn’t talking about them aswell this is one of the most negative sites ive ever been to. I respect what Ciara is sayin but nothing gonna change people are ignorant on the internet you just have to choose to ignore it Queen.

  55. Molly January 7, 2014

    @Whitney she also talkin bout the comment sections this sites comment section is disgusting the worse ive ever seen.

  56. Rosie January 7, 2014

    Ghetto urban blogs are the only blogs that care about her so I don’t know why she’s complaining.

  57. Molly January 7, 2014

    But i do love and appreciate this site it gives me good laughs.

  58. Molly January 7, 2014

    @Rosie and what blogs care about Lana?

  59. Rosie January 7, 2014

    @Molly Almost every relevant music blog has Ultraviolence as one of their most anticipated albums of 2014. But anyways let me know when Cierror’s album goes aluminum.

  60. Os January 7, 2014

    That,s great to hear Cici, but the sad thing is it,s in vain because alot of right now,is tearing that letter apart and turn it in to 100% negativity. and they have there followers to who fallows religiously that will bump up them clicks negativity sells, and they will do anything for them clicks even fling there own mom under the buss. on the other hand though no all in cluding me is like that, i love to see possitivity, that,s why i don’t go to certain blogs no more it,s too negative for me.

  61. Molly January 7, 2014

    @Rosie b**** please i can’t wait for that album to come out and flop then watch you jump ship cause all your good for is being a bandwagon stan smh now gtfoh d***.

  62. Rosie January 7, 2014

    @Molly But it will outsell “Ciara” worldwide in a few days, that’s for sure.

  63. Molly January 7, 2014

    @Rosie thats fine bet it won’t outsell Artpop tho kii

  64. Rosie January 7, 2014

    @Molly And Chartflop still won’t outsell Born To Die. Kii.

  65. Molly January 7, 2014

    @Rosie And born to die still wont outsell Born this way Lmao… hello? over here lying about born to die doing 5 million when it really at 4.2 million worldwide.

  66. Rosie January 7, 2014

    @Molly Mediatraffic only counts 10 countries, but keep deluding yourself into believing they’re reliable.
    Chartflop is selling horribly outside of North America and will not hit 3 million.

  67. Molly January 7, 2014

    @Rosie please save your excuses thanks.

  68. Vee January 7, 2014

    Ciara has the right message, but girl you don’t have it even half as bad as the Beyonce’s and Rihanna’s who have articles written on them on both black and white blogs. And they don’t complain because its part of showbiz. ALL the blogs check for them, she is only talked about on a select few and I don’t even see them coming for her like that.

  69. Rosie January 7, 2014

    @Molly They’re not excuses, babe. It’s the truth.
    Interscope (who is probably the only group who knows Lana’s actual sales) > amateur 2004-looking site ran by two Germans.
    Even if they did count the other 170+ countries I doubt your fave sold 200K worldwide yet, so I wouldn’t be talking.

  70. The Boy Toy January 7, 2014

    @Truth I’ll shut up when Lil Gremkim releases that mixtape b**** lol

  71. Princess January 7, 2014

    and this is exactly what she’s talking about, she hasn’t done anything to you nor does she know you and you choose to tear her down because of your love for another artist and i just think it’s funny because it’s the truth, half of you all get on here everyday/daily under the same names hiding and talking all kinds of s***, when you’re most likely not doing anything with your own life other that hating on someone who’m you’re irrelevant to and praising someone who’m also you’re irrelevant to, and for what? nothing at all just to prove a point that is also irrelevant your love for beyonce, and some one elses love for ciara, and some one elses love for barney and how hard you go for them don’t do anything for you but make you look stupid when you do it, it’s not putting food on the table nor is it paying any bills but people like y’all you can’t tell anything because your ignorance is just as big as your heads and it’s sad when you have to resort to being really nasty towards people who have no no impact in your life, people who don’t know you, and people who have never done anything to you or anyone else for that matter just to make yourself look good or once again to prove an irrelevant point, it’s really sad and stupid

  72. TBMCRIH4LIFE January 7, 2014


  73. ABC (the ORIGINAL) January 7, 2014

    But this is one of the shadiest, messiest most petty blogs on the internet…

  74. Stephy Tha Lambily January 7, 2014

    She is such a sweet woman. Still a FLOP tho!

  75. truth January 7, 2014

    amen, cause lord knows TGJ says some nasty things about artist just to get hits.

  76. The truth hurts January 7, 2014

    I’m not a fan of Ciara’s music, from what I’ve seen though she seems to be nice a person and her hearts in the right place BUT I find it so ironic that the women who is preaching anti-hate and bullying has a fan base that are some of the worst bullies on the urban blogs (I’m not talking all Ciara fans, it tends to be the ones with usernames that feature different forms of ‘CICI’) and many of the people praising her in this post spew hate filled comments on the other posts.

  77. SEESEECC January 7, 2014

    This definitely does NOT include C-squad. She sees what they say as well and it’s pretty embarrassing. Smh only about 25% of them, if THAT know how to live their life and not take everything to heart.

  78. Greg January 7, 2014

    In other words, Beehive sit ur ass down N stop being so hype & extra behind the comp. screen. It takes u no where. Go get a degree, but then again, most of ya’ll not even at a college level and your 25 bullying through a internet connection.. lmao!

  79. Kingboss January 7, 2014

    Wow. Either your standards are waaaaay low (high school diploma and ability to speak English) or you’re just another petty, hate-filled loser who needs yet another reason to hate on Beyonce. Settle down. I’m sure Riri and Shakira’s duet will chart well. And the album MIGHT do Bey numbers in like a year or so.

  80. FutureCIARA January 7, 2014

    @Rosie if Almost every relevant music blog cares about Lana….

    WHY TF DO YOU STAY PERCHED ON TGJ????????????????????

    If anyone ever wanted to look for you, they know where to find you girl, and its not on those White lame blogs, its here in the most recent ‘Ciara’ post.

    The only conversation Lana has been in is her VH1 Flop of the year letter.. And her Grammy performance snub by Lorde!

  81. FutureCIARA January 7, 2014

    @Rosie if Almost every relevant music blog cares about Lana….

    WHY TF DO YOU STAY PERCHED ON TGJ????????????????????

    If anyone ever wanted to look for you, they know where to find you girl, and its not on those White lame blogs, its here in the most recent ‘Ciara’ post.

    The only conversation Lana has been in is her VH1 Flop of the year letter.. And her Grammy performance snub by Lorde!!

  82. FutureCIARA January 7, 2014

    While Ciara just effortlessly and politely just dragged all of you bums…..

    I will make it a point in 2014 to begin writing more positive comments on the internet and blogs alike! And I strongly urge the rest of #Csquad to do the same. It can only help Ciara and not hurt the situation.

    You Reap What You Sow!

  83. *ℙᏫℙ ℝᏫᎩAℒᎿᎩ* January 7, 2014

    *Stands Up*

    *Gives a Standing Ovation*

    my respect for ciara has Blew up to the roof. 😀

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